The deepest desire of any man is giving his woman a satisfying orgasm and it’s a terrible nightmare if you fail to do…right? How to make a woman orgasm? something that every man wants to know to be the master of the bedroom.
Before we dive deep into studying about pleasing a woman sexually. The first thing you may be wondering is if it is even possible to make a woman different type of orgasms.
The answer I can give you, with 100% confidence, is YES! You see, women aren’t like men.
Men cum once, it feels good and then we wait until we get hard again and go at it again.
However, science has proved that women are CAPABLE of MANY types of orgasms.
While orgasms for men are largely PHYSICAL, based on the physical sensation and visual view (imagine a great ass bent over doggy style 🙂 women are very very different.
For women, not only are they capable of different types of orgasms but these orgasms can be given through emotional stimulation not just physical stimulation.
And for women these orgasms are of completely different intensities and lengths.
Some women can even orgasm for up to 20-30 minutes or the entire time you are inside her. (Make sure you read about this a little farther in this amazing article:)
If you are a man who wants to be able to make love to a woman like a pro you are going to want to read EVERY WORD of this article.
By the time you are done you’ll know exactly how to give your girl 4 different types of orgasms.
So, I believe you guys are ready to learn how to make a woman orgasm.
Leave everything and join me because today you’ll find out the secrets to be the best lover she has ever had!
#1 The Foreplay Orgasm
The first type of orgasm to give her is simply a foreplay clitoral orgasm through fingering.Overview:
It is of great importance that you have the ability to give your woman orgasms during foreplay by getting her in the mood.
The reason is because giving a woman orgasms during penetration without a foreplay orgasm first is VERY difficult.
When you can make a woman orgasm through fingering you can do it in a few different places.
For the purpose of this report in this section are you are going to discover the two EASIEST and VERY INTENSE orgasms you can give while fingering her.
a) A clitoral fingering orgasm
b) A g spot fingering orgasm.
Let’s discuss the different fingering orgasms, the differences, and how to give them.
A clitoral fingering orgasm is often easier to give than ANY OTHER type of orgasm. Clitoral orgasms during foreplay will set up much more intense internal orgasms during penetration.
How to give a clitoral fingering orgasm.
Before you even begin touching her clitoris properly warm her up. “Warm her up” by kissing the side of her neck, her mouth, massaging her body and generally touching EVERY part ofher body OTHER THAN HER VAGINA.
This way she begins FEELING very sexual but you aren’t touching the most important area until she is totally turned on and RELAXED! The longer you can take before touching her vagina the better.
AT THE LEAST you should take at least 10 minutes from when you titrated to getting sexual to where you are ready to begin clitoral fingering.
You CAN give her an orgasm through fingering after you give her oral sex but it is much easier to focus on either a fingering orgasm OR an oral sex orgasm.
Pick one method and give her an orgasm and then switch to the other and do the same!Once you have warmed her up (again for at LEAST 10 minutes of sexy touching WITHOUT touching her vagina) then you can begin touching her.
Step 1) Make sure your pointer finger on the hand you will using is wet. Either spit on it or rub some lube on it and some lube on her as well. However, after 10 minutes of sexual touching she should be wet and ready to go.
Step 2) With her lying on her back lie next to her with your left hand spreading her vagina and your right hand with the pointer finger on her clit.
Step 3) What you want to do now is slowly and lightly move that right pointer finger up and down on her clit. Again, start VERY slow and VERY light because even after 10 minutes offoreplay she STILL may not be totally aroused.
Step 4) Ask her if she likes it and notice how wet she is getting as well as her moans. At this point begin stroking her clit harder and a bit faster. See her response. STill move only in theup and down direction.
Step 5) Continue until orgasm 🙂 Yes, it’s that simple. Do NOT worry about a putting a finger inside her. It’s far easier to give her a clitoral fingering orgasm than an internal fingering orgasm and putting your finger inside her will only take her away from her soon-to-cum orgasm.
For most women it will take anywhere from 5 to 10 minutes of clitoral stroking to have anorgasm.
Here are some DON’Ts to do while you are giving her clitoral fingering orgasms:- Never do anything to break her concentration on her own pleasure.
(you will have your pleasure later AFTER you please her 🙂 Things that break her concentration and that you need to avoid at all costs include:
1) stopping and then starting again after a break
2) taking your finger off her clit and putting it inside of her
3) putting her hand on your cock to start jacking you off or stimulating you
4) Anything that she has to “do” while the clitoral stroking is going on…(examples: not having her head or body supported so she has to concentrate on holding herself up, distracting her by kissing her, playing music with changing songs)
The ONLY times in which to break these rules is when she specifically tells you to do something to add more spice into the sex.
If she is telling you it is because what she is telling you to do will INCREASE her sexual pleasure and bring her closer to orgasm.
Things that you might here which would allow you to break the above rules include:
1) “kiss me here”….and she will TELL YOU what area of her body she wants you to kiss
2) “I need a break” After you are stimulating for a while she will reach orgasm. After orgasm some for some women their clit becomes very sensitive. At this point you’ll need to take a break and then move on to penetration 🙂
(However, during penetration women are capable of coming over and over but many THINK they are too sensitive to do this..this will be explained a bit farther in this report)
The second type of foreplay fingering orgasm you can give her is a g spot orgasm.
Although there is much debate about the EXACT location of the g spot here is a tried and true “g spot”that will bring most women to orgasm.
You may have also read about the “A Spot” or “Deep Spot” and I will show you hot to hit those as well.
As with the clitoral fingering orgasm it is extremely important to warm up your girl.
Spend at least 10 minutes getting her warmed up by caressing her breasts, inner thighs, kissing her, and stroking her neck. (or you can use any other warm up techniques that you like to do.)
Now you are ready to finger her.
For the g spot fingering orgasm you will lie in a totally different position than the clitoral fingering orgasm.
Lie her flat on her back with her legs spread a comfortable distance a part for her.
You want to face her, knees on the bed with her right leg between your legs. (if you are right handed and using your right hand 🙂
Step 1) Make sure you get some lube or that she is sufficiently wet. (Sufficiently wet means that when you put your fingers on the outside of her vagina she is wet.
If she is not wet from her own anticipation apply a small amount of lubrication (astroglide works well) to your middle finger. Use that middle finger to slowly add the lube to the outside of her vagina and the opening of her vaginal labia (lips).
Step 2) First try the g spot….put your middle finger inside of her and with your palm up gently press the middle finger against the top wall of her vagina about 2-3 inches in. You should feel a spongy area.
The motion for fingering her is simply a “come hither” motion with your middle finger slowly releasing the light pressure and then adding more.
Step 3) Continue this “come hither motion” and try increasing the speed and the pressure of what you are pushing.
You can ask her “how does this feel” in addition to noticing for heavier breathing, increased wetness, or her hips bucking up and down (meaning she is getting highly aroused).
Every woman is a bit different but your girl should come within 5-10 minutes of this g spot fingering.
Now let’s discuss some variations in case this isn’t EXACTLY hitting the spot.
Many sex “gurus” speak of the “deep spot” or the “a spot”. Science doesn’t really have a conclusive answer on ANY this but there is a SECOND spot that takes many women who have never had an “internal” (non clitoral) orgasm to having one.
Here is how to hit it: Stay in the same position as above and again place your middle finger inside or her with your palm up.
THIS TIME THOUGH slide your finger in AS FAR as you can where here vagina is now smooth and firm instead of spongy.
You can again press and curl your finger in a “comehither” motion. In this spot you can press MUCH HARDER although start of gently as she warms up and see how she responds.
Another variation of this is to have her in the doggy style position on the bed.
Again put your middle finger in palm up but now you are stimulating what is really the bottom of her vagina.
Go as far as you can and curl your finger to press again her tailbone and ass. Your girl may love this and it may lead to a very strong orgasm originating in the back wall of the vagina.
There are 3 ways you can finger your girl to a foreplay orgasm. Let me know which one your girl likes best and how hard she came for you!
#2. The Oral Sex Orgasm
Many women LOVE oral sex. This is NOT a mystery. But the problem is most men are terrible at giving oral sex.
Let’s go over some techniques for giving great oral to your girl for the purpose of GIVING HER AN ORGASM before sex.
Before we hit the techniques here are some common mistakes guys make with oral sex:
1) Going down on her and thinking that she just enjoys “oral” but without focusing on making her cum.
Remember this, men can usually only come once and then its over for a bit while we recover.
Women on the other hand can come over and over…So think about it, what do you think women want from a man going down on them?
If you guessed AN ORGASM…then you are right!!!! Men enjoy blow jobs without coming, and while women do enjoy oral sex without an orgasm they would far PREFER to come during it! The focus of you going down on your girl should be to give her an orgasm. Never go down on her just to go down on her!
2) using their tongue like a penis and “fucking” her with it
Sometimes men are focused on penetration that they think oral sex is simply an EXTENSION of penetration. This couldn’t be farther from the truth.
Penetration is to stimulate the inside of the vagina and the MIND of the woman to create intense vaginal orgasms.
Since you can’t talk while going down on your girl (it is harder to stimulate her mind) you should be focused on one thing, giving her a clitoral orgasm! Your tongue is not a penis, don’t’ use it as one and you don’t even need to put it inside her at all….
3) not concentrating on the clit
Just as while many times guys will put their TONGUE inside her vagina there are other ways they will screw up going down on her as well. Often, guys will go down on her in a half ass attempt.
They will hit everything BUT the clit. They’ll lick around the lips of her pussy, her inner thighs, her stomach, but never really concentrate on her clit! Remember, when you are going down on her clitoral stimulation is what is going to take her over the edge.
4) not using the right rhythm
For the guys who do recognize that the clitoris is the “pleasure zone” for her during oral sex there is another mistake they often make. A lot of times a guy may lick the clit or brush over it with his tongue.
While you are hitting the right area the rhythm is completely wrong! Most women require CONTINUOUS clitoral stimulation in order to come and INCREASING pressure as they warm up. All of this will be explained momentarily in a step by step manner.
5) not doing it long enough
Another common mistake guys make when going down on their girl is not doing it long enough. Most likely the reason for this is that men relate going down on a woman to a woman going down on them!
Obviously for a BJ a guy wants it as long as possible but usually he doesn’t want to come so that he can last and penetrate his girl after. So the length of time to not only get aroused but also to get ready for penetration is not that long.
For a woman,she WANTS to come from oral sex because she can come again during penetration so most guys do not stay down there long enough for her to achieve orgasm.
Many men can come quickly from a bj if they wanted to (or even TOO quickly if they are too aroused!) but for a women usually it takes ten solid minutes of continuous oral stimulation for her to achieve orgasm.
Now let’s talk about HOW to actually give her an orgasm through oral sex.
Start out by making sure that she is relaxed and comfortable. Maybe have a glass of wine or relax by watching a movie or some tv. Take your time and ENJOY every moment of the sexual encounter.
The more you drag out the foreplay even before you go down on her the more relaxed she is going to be and the better chance of achieving an orgasm.
You’re probably noticing a common theme here, to take your time 🙂 Women warm up slowly, far slower than men. I’m sure I’m not the first to tell you this, but I will tell 2 things:
1. It’s absolutely TRUE
2. You can never have TOO MUCH warm up!
In fact, even most guys who KNOW a girl needs to be warmed up and try to take their time would still benefit by warming her up even LONGER. So…Take as long as you can to undress her DOWN TO HER PANTIES.
Once you have down to her panties spend 3-5 FULL minutes kissing her inner thighs and her vagina OVER her panties. Really take your time. There is no hurry.
If you deny going inside of her now you are in a great spot to give her an oral sex orgasm. At this point you have 2 options:
Option A: keep going with EXACTLY what you are doing for a few more minutes and see if it drives her over the edge to an orgasm.
Hint: You may have to hold her stomach down with one hand in order to keep constant pressure on her clit as she will be squirming around in pleasure.
Option B: Suck her entire clit into your mouth and apply pressure with your tongue to it.
This will be harder pressure and she may like it more than Option A or she may like it less.Let her moans and what she says give you the answer you need.
Start soft!Keep going with Option A OR Option B until she has an orgasm. (yes your tongue MAY get tired) For most women this will take anywhere from 5-10 minutes depending on how long you warmed her up before going down on her.
You’ll know that she had an orgasm when her inner thighs are trembling slightly and she pushes you off of her!
The most important thing in missionary position is maintaining a CONSTANT RHYTHM, not pounding her as hard as you can… and maintaining it for at least 10 minutes.
Here is a version of missionary that usually allows guys to last a long time, hit her g spot, and drive her to a SCREAMING ORGASM.
Steps: from normal missionary position place your head down on the side next to hers- put your hands under her butt so each hand is gripping a side of her butt- lift her up slightly as you thrust in and out of her.
Here is what you are going to find…You are not thrusting at full force and the strokes are not that long because of the positioning BUT…
because of the intimacy of this position and the stimulation on her g spot that pulling her in with your hand has and the rocking motion that you are doing is going to lead to a tremendous orgasm for her.
Maintain this position with a steady rhythm for 10 minutes (let the springs of the mattress help you so you don’t get tired, that way you barely have to do any work) and she should be clawing at your back and screaming your name while she orgasms 🙂
Advanced tip: Your head right next to her is in a great place to either talk ROMANTICALLY ortalk DIRTY. If you aren’t sure what to say tell her how good it feels to be inside of her or how much she likes it!
#4. Multiple Orgasms
If you can give a woman ONE orgasm during penetration you can give her multiple orgasms during penetration.
First before we get into the techniques for giving your girl multiple orgasms lets understand what is multiple orgasms
Multiple orgasms: Giving a woman more than one orgasm in the time in takes from when you start kissing/getting sexual to the time you (the man) comes and needs to take a break from penetrating her.
Since giving a woman multiple orgasms is defined simply as MORE THAN ONE ORGASM, your goal is pretty simple. Give her an orgasm during foreplay and then give her a few more during penetration.
The easiest way to give her multiples is to get that first foreplay orgasm using one of the techniques above.
Now here’s what to do when you get to penetration.Put her into a position where its easy to give her an orgasm WITHOUT using up a lot of your stamina and physical strength. I’d suggest the missionary position orgasm referenced above to start.
Give her that orgasm FIRST, by maintaining that steady rhythm for 10 minutes like we said. From there, you can do either of two things:
Option 1: Stay inside her in that missionary position and give her a few seconds to “comedown” from her orgasm and then start thrusting again until she has a second orgasm.
(You can encourage her by saying things like “I love when you come for me” or “can you come again for me baby.” If you stay in this position just do what you already did and she will come again.
Option 2: Give her a different orgasm from a different position. As I’ve mentioned before orgasms from different positions feel different to women.
There is nothing wrong with giving her the same orgasm in the same position because it will still feel a bit different BUT a new position will give her a TOTALLY different orgasm.For Option 2 switch to doggy style.
But it’s important that you switch to a certain TYPE of doggy style. The most likely for her to orgasm is with her bent over doggy style on the bed and you standing up behind her.
The reasons are:-
You standing gives you the stamina to last longer and thrust at a harder and faster pace (important to doggystyle)- she is more likely to cum when she is supported by the bed because she can relax and not have to support her own body weight as if she was standing up bent over…this way she can have a much more intense orgasm.
Here’s how to give her that second (or third or fourth) orgasm once you’ve switched to doggy style.- Increase your pace until you are going as hard and as fast as you can without worrying that you will get too tired to continue..
Place your hands UNDER the crook of her hip bones so you can pull her into you as you thrust and hit her g spot from behind.
Reach around with one hand or have her reach up with one hand and massage her clit while you are thrusting so she can have a clitoral AND g spot penetration orgasm (she may even squirt if she has both!)
For multiple orgasms it is also important that you maintain a steady pace, and again, it’s important that you last long enough for her to get off!
Just as women need longer than we do to warm up, they need longer periods of stimulation to get off, which means YOU need to have good stamina. (We’ll talk more on that later…)
So, now as you are giving it to her from behind keep the pace steady (do not increase it) as she begins to come close to coming.
Just continue on and she will have an orgasm and you will have succeeded in giving your girl multiple orgasms!
Note: If for some reason you do not want to do doggy style for the second position move to whatever other position that allows you to keep a steady rhythm.
Having a your girl ride you is also a great way for her to GIVE HERSELF a second orgasm.
If you decide on having her climb on top here area few secrets what will help you out.
Secret 1– Some women are VERY good at making themselves come when they are on top. If this is the case, and you can ask her by saying “baby can you come like this?” don’t worry about stimulating her clit with your hand or massaging her breasts. She’ll tell you exactly what to do that will make her cum.
Secret 2– Other women are NOT good at making themselves come while on top. For this type of woman stimulate her clit while she is riding you by holding your hand thumb down and rubbing her clit up and down with your thumb. This should give her a clitoral orgasm while she is on top of you.
Now you know 4 types of orgasms to give your girl.
Start out with those foreplay orgasms and then move on to multiple orgasms! See if you can take your girl to “Multiple Orgasms”!
I hope you enjoyed these orgasms (because your girl sure will!)